The
first and the best thing a boy could get in his life is Mom. Mom gives
unconditional love that the boy could never get anywhere or at any part of his
life. That love he experiences at that tender age always remain green in his
memories and who is an exception for this?
Should
Moms allow their son to wear a Dress / Skirt?
Kids begin
to understand the gender difference only at the age of 5 or a bit later. There
are several instances reported in the net mostly by Moms revealing the fact
that their son has developed a liking for wearing female dresses even before
that age of 5. And it is also apparent that they got worried and took him to a doctor
or a psychologist to get an idea of what is happening to their son.
The
reply they most of the Moms got is that there is nothing wrong in that
attraction of boys wearing female dress and when they start understanding the
gender difference after the age of 5 they would simply change their attitude.
And these comments from the psychologists are also recorded in the net by
several Moms. Mostly of the Moms who have reported this also generously admitted
that they have allowed their sons to wear female dresses as they wanted only
their happiness and could not bear witnessing them becoming disappointed. Moms
always take a correct decision about their sons, we know that and my question
is what would or should be their stand if their sons’ attraction continues even
after they understood the gender difference.
Let
us take up the question and answer it step by step.
At
that tender age even before understanding about the gender difference why
should your son develop an attraction towards female dresses?
Let
us not make the answer more complicated with scientific facts and genealogy as the
so called pundits in those fields could also not explain the phenomenon with
clarity and proof.
As a
Mom you will know what your child likes and what are his preferences? It is a
general question and we are not getting into specifics like dresses or skirts.
A child gets attached to things that are attractive. Their attraction could be
shape or size or variety of colour or anything that shines and glitters. They
also might get attracted to something that is soft, silky, smooth, lingering
that gives a fantastic feeling. All Moms would agree to this and I think no
scientist or psychiatrist is going to deny these facts as these are the general
feelings that any child gets. They almost do not like anything that is dull or something
that is hard for touch.
Every
Mom who is reading this might feel something familiar with these descriptions.
Yes.
These
descriptions suit well with the dresses you and all females wear.
Is it
not natural for your son to get an attraction towards the dress that you and
all females have liked for the mere sake that they are beautiful, attractive
and convenient to wear?
Why
then your son should be denied that attraction, beauty, convenience and the
comfort?
Okay.
Now let us get into the advanced age of your son when he starts understanding
about the gender difference. As most of the psychiatrists have commented this
attraction would melt away at this stage.
My
question is – Why?
The
answer is so simple. When they understand the gender difference they also
understand that there is a social constraint that does not allow him to wear
female dresses. He knows that he would be looked upon as a strange being and
would be laughed at. Even if he still liked that feeling and attracted towards
the female dresses he restrains himself and starts leading a life that is
expected out of him.
I am
not discussing about gender orientation and conditions that make boys become
cross dressers or even transgender later. It is the general logic and why only
girls be given the comfort of wearing something comfortable and attractive when
boys are restricted from doing so?
And
it has become common and even socially accepted when a girl wears trousers,
pants and shirts as boys do.
Is it
not a discrimination?
